Infidelity & Trust Recovery Therapy in Los Gatos, California
Something happened that broke the trust between you. Maybe it was an affair. Maybe it was a series of smaller betrayals that added up. Maybe it was something you can't quite name, but you both know it changed things.
You don't have to decide right now whether you're staying together. You just have to decide you want to understand what happened, and what's possible from here.
Signs you could benefit from trust recovery therapy in Los Gatos
You found out about an affair, physical or emotional, and don't know how to move forward
You're the one who broke trust, and you don't know how to repair it
You've stayed together, but the trust never actually came back
Every disagreement circles back to what happened
You want to rebuild, but don't know if it's actually possible
You're not sure if you should stay or go, and the not-knowing is its own kind of exhausting
Small things now feel like evidence, checking phones, needing constant reassurance, assuming the worst
What if you could go from:
Constantly needing proof that things are okay
→ Trusting your own read on the relationship again
Reliving what happened every time you fight
→ Being able to address new issues without every fight becoming about the betrayal
Not knowing if you can ever feel safe again
→ Rebuilding a version of safety that's actually real, not just performed
Silence about what happened because it's too painful to discuss
→ Being able to talk about it without it destroying you both
How trust recovery therapy in California can help
Rebuilding trust isn't about forgetting what happened or rushing to "move on." It's about understanding how it happened, what it means, and whether both of you are willing to do the work of repair.
For the partner who was betrayed, healing means being able to ask hard questions and get honest answers, at a pace that doesn't retraumatize you every session. For the partner who broke trust, it means taking real accountability without becoming so defensive or ashamed that repair becomes impossible.
The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy notes that couples who work with a trained therapist after infidelity are significantly more likely to successfully rebuild trust than those who try to navigate it alone.
A way to ask the hard questions — get real answers without every conversation turning into a fight
Rebuilt safety — move from hypervigilance to a version of trust that's actually earned back, not just assumed
A relationship not defined by what happened — eventually, be able to talk about other things again
A clear picture of what happened — understand the real reasons behind the betrayal, not just the surface story
A path forward, together or apart — clarity on whether rebuilding is possible, without rushing the decision
Real accountability — for the partner who broke trust, learn to take ownership without collapsing into shame or defensiveness
What you'll gain from trust recovery therapy
What working together is really like
Step 1. We create space for what happened to actually be heard, the full impact, without either partner having to manage the other's reaction.
Step 2. We look at what made the relationship vulnerable to begin with, not to excuse what happened, but to understand it so it doesn't repeat.
Step 3. We practice rebuilding trust in small, concrete ways, so safety becomes something you're actually experiencing together, not just hoping for.
My approach to trust recovery therapy
I work from an EFT-informed and attachment-informed lens, which means we look at the emotional injury underneath the betrayal, not just the facts of what happened. Betrayal activates deep attachment wounds, sometimes ones that started long before this relationship.
We move at a pace that respects both partners: space for the betrayed partner's pain to be fully heard, and space for the partner who broke trust to take real accountability without being permanently defined by their worst moment.
I don't rush couples toward "moving on." Some couples rebuild. Some don't. My job is to help you find real clarity either way.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Many can, though it depends on both partners' willingness to do the work. Recovery doesn't mean forgetting, it means building something honest going forward.
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That's okay. A lot of couples start here to get clarity, not because they've already decided to rebuild.
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It varies widely depending on what happened and how long ago, but meaningful progress is usually visible within a few months of consistent work.
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Couples sessions are $250 for 50 minutes. I'm a private-pay provider, meaning no diagnosis required and no insurance limits on your care. I provide a superbill for potential reimbursement.
Start trust recovery therapy in Los Gatos today
If you're ready to understand what happened and what's possible from here, I'd love to connect. I offer a free 15-minute consultation so we can talk before you commit to anything.
Telehealth throughout California. Serving Los Gatos, Saratoga, Atherton, Menlo Park, Tiburon, Danville, Orinda, and the greater Bay Area.