Couples & Relational Trauma Therapy
in Los Gatos, California
For couples caught in the same painful pattern, and individuals healing from relational wounds that still shape how they connect.
You've gotten really good at surviving. Now let's talk about actually living, connecting to your body, to yourself, and to the ones you love.
Maybe it's the apology that comes out before you've even finished a sentence. The conversation with your partner that somehow always ends in the same place, no matter how it starts. The way you can be in a room full of people who love you and still feel like you're bracing for something.
Most of my clients didn't grow up in homes where the harm was obvious. Nobody was yelling. Nothing looked wrong from the outside. But somewhere in there, you learned to shrink your needs, brace for conflict, or become the one who held everything together. That wiring didn't disappear when you grew up. It just found a new relationship to run itself in.
Maybe you:
You and your partner keep having the same fight, just with different words
You love each other, but somewhere along the way you started feeling more like roommates
Your relationships keep playing out the same dynamic, different person
Something happened that still shapes how safe you feel today, even years later
Your body reacts to certain situations in ways that don't match the size of what's actually happening
You find yourself parenting the way you swore you never would
You've probably tried to figure it out on your own for a while. Maybe you've read the books, done the journaling, talked to friends. But insight alone doesn't always move the needle. Something deeper is still asking for attention.
That's what therapy is for.
Couples & Relational Trauma Therapist in Los Gatos, California
You know something isn't working between you and the people closest to you. You just can't quite name why.
Maybe it's the fight you and your partner keep having in different clothes. Maybe it's the friend or family member you keep over-explaining yourself to. Maybe it's the quiet realization that you've been so good at taking care of everyone else's feelings that you've lost track of your own.
You're not looking for someone to tell you what to do. You want to understand the pattern well enough to actually change it, together with your partner, or on your own first.
That's exactly the kind of work I do.
I'm Megan, an LMFT based in Los Gatos, CA. I specialize in couples work, anxiety, relational trauma, and the lasting impact of early family dynamics, working with individuals and couples across California via telehealth.
If you're here, something in you is ready. Maybe you can't fully name it yet. Maybe you've been circling this decision for a while, telling yourself you'll reach out when things get bad enough, or when you have more time, or when you're sure. But you keep coming back to the feeling that the way you've been living isn't quite working anymore.
That's enough. You don't need a crisis to deserve this.
The people I work with are curious about themselves. They want to understand why they show up the way they do, where their patterns came from, and what it would feel like to stop carrying so much. They're not looking for someone to hand them tools. They're ready to do the real work, the kind that actually changes something.
That's what I'm here for.
Services Available
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Individual Therapy
Something isn't working and you know it. You're ready to stop managing and start actually understanding what's driving the pattern.
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Couples Therapy
You're not fighting about what you think you're fighting about. Let's find what's actually underneath and get you back to each other.
Specialties
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Reconnection & Intimacy Therapy
Somewhere along the way, you started feeling more like roommates than partners. The distance crept in slowly, through missed conversations, mismatched schedules, and old hurts that never got resolved. Reconnection and intimacy therapy helps you find your way back to each other, emotionally and physically, so your relationship feels like a place you both want to be.
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Relational Trauma Therapy
Trauma doesn't just live in the past. It shows up in your body, your relationships, your sense of safety. Let's work to change that.
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Infidelity & Trust Recovery
Something happened that broke the trust between you, an affair, a betrayal, a secret that changed things. You don't have to know yet whether you're staying together. You just have to want to understand what happened and what's possible from here.
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Relationship Clarity Therapy
You're caught between wondering if things can get better and questioning whether it's time to let go. I help individuals slow down the uncertainty, understand what's happening beneath the surface, and move forward with greater clarity and confidence.
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Communication Therapy for Couples
You say one thing, they hear another, and the same fight keeps finding its way back. I help couples spot the pattern underneath their miscommunication, usually one partner pursuing and the other pulling away, and build real skills to stay connected even when things get hard.
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Anxiety Therapy
You've tried to think your way out of it. But anxiety isn't a logic problem. Let's get to what's actually driving it and quiet it at the root.
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![Telehealth therapy for low self-worth, people pleasing, and the feeling of never being enough. Private pay, fully confidential. Serving Los Gatos, CA and the Bay Area.]()
Self Esteem Therapy
You've spent a long time measuring your worth by what you produce, who you please, or how well you hold it together. Let's change that.
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Premarital Counseling
You love each other. That doesn't mean the hard conversations come easy. Premarital counseling gives you a space to talk through money, family, kids, and expectations before they become the things you argue about later. You'll leave with real tools for communication and conflict, not just a checklist you did before the wedding.
The relationship is the work.
Research shows the strongest predictor of successful therapy isn't the modality. It's the connection between you and your therapist.
When you feel safe and genuinely understood, deeper work becomes possible. Change actually lasts.
That's why I offer a free 15-minute consultation, so you can get a feel for my style before committing to anything.
What You Can Gain From Working Together
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Ways to Feel Better
Learn practical, body-based ways to move through anxiety, overwhelm, and difficult emotions.
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Deeper Self-Understanding
Make sense of the patterns, reactions, and emotions that have felt confusing or out of your control.
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Stronger Communication
Express needs, set boundaries, and navigate conflict in ways that build connection rather than distance.
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Clarity & Direction
Reconnect with your values and gain a clearer sense of who you are and what you want.
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More Secure Relationships
Build the kind of safety, trust, and intimacy that allows you and the people you love to thrive.
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A Better Relationship with Yourself
Learn to find kindness and curiosity for the voice in your head to make your body and brain a safer and more welcoming place to be.
"We finally have the tools to be able to have honest conversations with one another."
-former client
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If you've been feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or like something just isn't working, that's enough of a reason to reach out. You don't need to be in crisis to benefit from therapy. Most people wish they'd started sooner.
Learn more about services here.
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It's a complimentary 15-minute video call where you can briefly share what's been difficult, and I'll ask a few questions to understand your goals. I'll explain how I work, answer your questions, and we'll discuss next steps if it feels right. No pressure. It's simply to see if we're a good fit. Reach out here.
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Individual sessions are $250 and couples $275 per 50-minute session. While I do not bill insurance directly, you can request a super-bill to submit for potential out-of-network reimbursement. I recommend visiting my Mentaya link to understand your out-of-network benefits and eligibility.
Learn more about fees here.
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Insurance is not accepted at Megan Bathen-Gonzalez Psychotherapy. All services are fully private pay. There are a small number of spots open for sliding scale fees, as well as the option to submit a super-bill to your insurance.
Wondering how much your insurance might cover? Use the tool to check your out-of-network benefits in seconds. Many PPO clients receive 40 to 80% back on sessions.
Learn more about fees here.
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A superbill is a detailed receipt of services that you can submit to your insurance company for possible reimbursement. It includes information such as the type of service provided, diagnosis codes, and session fees. Reimbursement is not guaranteed and depends on your specific out-of-network benefits. Check them here.
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That's more common than you'd think, and it usually comes down to fit, timing, or approach. If something feels different about what you've read here, it's worth a conversation. The consultation call is a good way to get a feel for whether this would be different. Learn more about me and my style here.
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A standard session is 50 minutes long.
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That's completely okay. It's normal to need a little more time before taking that step.
If you'd prefer, you're welcome to reach out by email first. You can share a bit about what's been going on or ask any questions you have, and I'll respond personally.
You can contact me at:
megan@meganbathen-gonzalezpsychotherapy.com
Reaching out by email is just another way to start at your own pace.
Feel free to fill out the contact form, and I can email you back.
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Yes. Everything you share in therapy is kept private and confidential. The only exceptions are situations required by law, such as risk of harm to yourself or others, or abuse of a child, elder, or dependent adult.
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While I have experience and love working with kids, I do not currently accept minor clients. I find the work with kids is most productive in person, and I do not have the space to offer in-person services currently.
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I work to understand both of your experiences and the pattern happening between you. Most conflict isn't about one "bad" partner; it's about a cycle that pulls you both into reactivity. That said, I will hold both of you accountable. If something is harmful, avoidant, or escalating conflict, we'll address it directly and respectfully.
Learn more about couples therapy here.
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As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist I am not able to prescribe medications. If this is something you are looking for, I would be happy to give you a referral.
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Sessions must be rescheduled or cancelled 48 hours or more before session or the client is responsible for paying the full fee.
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This means that my clients must be located in California at the time of session for me to legally be able to work with them.
Learn more.
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Your first session is mostly about getting to know each other. We'll talk through what brought you to therapy, your history, and what you're hoping will be different. There's no pressure to have it all figured out. I ask questions, listen closely, and start forming a picture of how we might work together. It is called an ‘intake’ as I am gathering more info than a normal session. Sessions are 50 minutes and held virtually, so you can do this from wherever feels comfortable.